Through my past experiences, I personally went through some situations which brought me to some conclusions. Now here I ask a question, is it really nice on our part to do with others, what they did with us?
Many a times we avoid being in the company of someone whom we didn’t have any contact, just a general acquaintance. Sometimes the prevailing situations are such that might show us the negative image of that person. But there must be always another side too. This is how, what make us to have a wrong opinion about someone or just a belief, neither without any basis nor any information.
If it is so ‘what provokes us to be indifferent towards them’. That might be ‘insecurity’ or ‘getting affected’ by their attitude, in any way. We never try to peel off the scrap to reveal the reality of that individual, but just believe either on any hear-say or just misinterpret. That’s what make us ‘PREJUDICE’ or ‘JUDGEMENTAL’.
We all are judgemental. Yes, even you. It doesn’t matter how much we try to get over this. But at last we are humans and yeah!!! It’s totally natural to judge others. ‘Acceptance’ is what that can differ us from others. Go, and talk to that bench-mate of yours, sitting beside whom you feel it really boring and tiresome, at least for 15 min, go and converse with that guy or a girl who are really a ‘bully kind’ of people or an intimidate, go even to that person who habitually not intentionally try to always put you down and criticize you, provided that you should be the first to interact, it would surely bring remarkable change in their behaviour, you might be able to discover something great about them, and moreover ‘You will surely feel better’ after all this.
I am not asking you to get into a wrong company but rather than just give others a little space that can help them to explore in front of you. Acceptance can surely help in changing our perspective towards others and even generate positivity in us.
Now just bringing this topic out from a ’monotonous advice columns’, let’s spice it up. Being judgemental is not only due to presumption we make about someone, but can be a ‘Misinterpretation’. Generally we not only ruin our friendships but also our relationship by being judgemental. We generally show least interest or just have clashes of thoughts with our partner, because of ignorance.
Just an act of acceptance, like a fairy godmother can save our relationships, can even not let that right person go away from us. Not always ‘being judgemental’ builds up from having wrong opinions. We often think with positive approach about any person but that can prove us wrong. So ultimately we can’t be able to predict or know about someone by only having a day-night conversation, but spending with them every single moment can help us to build a clear perspective before any conclusion.
Friends and better-halves, betrayal from them can be overcome, but what if, if we find someone fascinating in talking who might be a stalker, just to steal some personal information, that can be dangerous.
So in every aspect ‘being judgemental’ just have a negative impact and act of tolerance and acceptance is the only remedy to such situation ………..-MSR
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