TIT FOR TAT

Through my past experiences, I personally went through some situations which brought me to some conclusions. Now here I ask a question, is it really nice on our part to do with others, what they did with us?

Many a times we avoid being in the company of someone whom we didn’t have any contact, just a general acquaintance. Sometimes the prevailing situations are such that might show us the negative image of that person. But there must be always another side too. This is how, what make us to have a wrong opinion about someone or just a belief, neither without any basis nor any information.

If it is so ‘what provokes us to be indifferent towards them’. That might be ‘insecurity’ or ‘getting affected’ by their attitude, in any way. We never try to peel off the scrap to reveal the reality of that individual, but just believe either on any hear-say or just misinterpret. That’s what make us ‘PREJUDICE’ or ‘JUDGEMENTAL’.

We all are judgemental. Yes, even you. It doesn’t matter how much we try to get over this. But at last we are humans and yeah!!! It’s totally natural to judge others. ‘Acceptance’ is what that can differ us from others. Go, and talk to that bench-mate of yours, sitting beside whom you feel it really boring and tiresome, at least for 15 min, go and converse with that guy or a girl who are really a ‘bully kind’ of people or an intimidate, go even to that person who habitually not intentionally try to always put you down and criticize you, provided that you should be the first to interact, it would surely bring remarkable change in their behaviour, you might be able to discover something great about them, and moreover ‘You will surely feel better’ after all this.

I am not asking you to get into a wrong company but rather than just give others a little space that can help them to explore in front of you. Acceptance can surely help in changing our perspective towards others and even generate positivity in us.

Now just bringing this topic out from a ’monotonous advice columns’, let’s spice it up. Being judgemental is not only due to presumption we make about someone, but can be a ‘Misinterpretation’. Generally we not only ruin our friendships but also our relationship by being judgemental. We generally show least interest or just have clashes of thoughts with our partner, because of ignorance.

Just an act of acceptance, like a fairy godmother can save our relationships, can even not let that right person go away from us. Not always ‘being judgemental’ builds up from having wrong opinions. We often think with positive approach about any person but that can prove us wrong. So ultimately we can’t be able to predict or know about someone by only having a day-night conversation, but spending with them every single moment can help us to build a clear perspective before any conclusion.

Friends and better-halves, betrayal from them can be overcome, but what if, if we find someone fascinating in talking who might be a stalker, just to steal some personal information, that can be dangerous.

So in every aspect ‘being judgemental’ just have a negative impact and act of tolerance and acceptance is the only remedy to such situation ………..-MSR

I am Ugly

I never take a glance of mirror, my flaws, my scars,

My innocence is bitched just when I step out of my boundaries.

I just love to be within those walls that pulls me back and reminds me of my ugliness.

Seeing others, someday I want to be a lime-light, a highlight.

Can’t even think of capturing myself, just smiles taking photos of others

“Pull her aside, stand little bit far, u r fat!!!”

Always get annoyed by those remarks that pierce my heart

Every time, every second I console my broken heart,

Seeing my own shadow is a way too easy, than seeing “real ME”.

God never had a mercy on me, because I am UGLY.

Just because she is not like us, or can’t able to dress-up and maintains herself the way we do, doesn’t mean she has not a beautiful soul. Guys, there will be definitely someone who always try to sweep aside and just shut themself within closed bound. Their hairs, their body, their wrinkles, always fierce them and when we comment on them that surely scars their self-esteem. A little concern from our side can make them feel their beauty, can pull out their fear of exposure and may be our effort can scratch their fear; they can be diva of their own world.

-MSR

its a girl thing

It’s always a “girl” thing, whatever they say, they do, their nonsense act, all are well appreciated or sometimes ignored. But what usually we see is the “CRITICISM” that comes in the way of every girl or women. Women find it really appreciable or act of great deed in supporting the man’s ego.
But why we are faking this every time? Why we always get suppressed off in front of male’s power???? So here is the answer ….. They aren’t powerful or dominant actually we are the one who take away our own power, we only pull over selves back in front of their so called ”MANLINESS”. This is what makes them MIGHTY, COMPELLING, REGNANT and RULING.
Often we see, whenever they share their ideas and thoughts, we are usually very keen in listening that and afterwards appreciate it somehow, whether we are able to understand it or we are known about the topic in which we were engrossed in earlier conversation. But this actually do not occur in our case, we are always put down, they show a total disapproval, find faults and always consider it as a shit or a crap and finally end up saying ……”you are such a dumb”.
Boys always get attracted to the girl who is least bothered about them or is not an “easy catch”. They praise you, give you all attention. When the girl gets into their fake soft words and they both end up getting into relationship. They would definitely stop treating them what they used to show them earlier.
We never get what we deserve and certainly loose some part of our confidence which we built it from our hardworking past. Unknowingly they become the reason of our stress and disturb our mental well being. So girls it’s high time not to laugh on their horrible PJ’s and insensible talks. Come into your real role and be yourself. Show them that they can never be the cause of our happiness we still have the ability to gain our comfort zone. Many people are still existing around us who can match our compatibility level. Don’t get into our nerves, you are safe and alive, unless and until we are silent.
Lastly, want to conclude that this is only my observation not an experience, and it’s not for all boys but for majority of them.

Abe tarif hi ho rhi hai,Lyt lo !!!

Lyt Lo!! Ye insti hai yar, abhi footy khelne jana hai, abe tumse nah ho payega, maggu hai bechara. I think most of us are very well-known to these phrases if not, then I would like to present here a unique picture of those students who are the creators of such phrases. IITians are very well appreciated for their outstanding talents, possess great deal of knowledge. Perhaps of all this, there are many other “talents” and “traits” too which remains inside the box, and can only be explored if the box is unpacked.

IIT guys are totally cool pals, but if this coolness is increased a bit from the normal cool breeze, turn out to be a disastrous hurricane. They are addicted to the surrounding of showing null considerations, especially  those who spent their coaching sessions in stupid KOTA (coaching hub). Even, not to their close ones. Their near and dear ones totally understand their feelings and their conditions they are going through.

Let’s get into their, another miserable conditions. Readers, ATtension!!! Your tears are going to roll down, so it’s a kind request to get your wipes ready. IIT’s innocent creatures are unresponsive, they are totally unable to reveal their feelings, and no one can easily make them to do so, really dumb creatures they are.

One of their strong point, they always do “Free-Fund corrections” even when they are not asked to do that. That really sucks, sorry for the language, but yeah!! It really does. Again the sufferers (close ones) tolerate their “good” habit and admit the corrections with a smile. The “brave” IITians.

These poor beings need little love and acceptance from your side. Let’s make an oath to always be their well-wisher and accept every corrections they make, every void (no sound) they create during conversations and respect their coolness.

NO ONE CAN COMPETE THEM!!!! THEY ENJOY THEIR MONOPOLY BECAUSE OF SUCH “GOOD”TRAITS.

Things we usually come across during our teenage life

 

1. Criticism is a builder not a destructor

 

Many a times people do criticize you and take you for granted. Whenever you want to attain anyone’s attention and you are not getting whatever you are seeking for.

Don’t lose hope and patience be what you are….Life’s simple rule is “CHANGE” and same goes with the people whom we admire. They do change and want others to change for them ….according to their convenience and understanding

But, what about us….???? Are we deaf and dumb sheep? Are we?

NO, not at all….. We have our own life and we will surely change not for them but for those who really cared for us not for the complaints they made but the compliments we gained.

 

2. Getting improved for others

 

 

Being independent doesn’t mean to be stubborn, but to be understanding, at least for the people whom we are acquainted with or having a firm relation. If for a sake of any relationship we have to pay for our behaviour, then let it be, we will do change. Getting ahead in life with all self-esteem and self-respect is good and even great but we should put a HALT if this grows and become our self-pride. That can ruin any relationship.

Nothing can bring a change, except us. It’s not a matter of humiliation but a matter of being generous enough to secure a precious relationship, which would surely last for long.

 

 

3. Don’t overlook the warnings

 

We, especially teenagers do have the problem of taking warnings for granted. And they finally end up inrepenting upon their mistake which occurred due to their over-smartness. Warnings sometimes act like our fairy god mother that secure us before any problem but we generally overlook this warning and don’t take the necessary step to avoid that problem.

 

 

4. “Time”-best ailment

 

Many a times we get hurt, unknowingly or intentionally, but that hurting is definitely be cured by time gap. Time should be given to any relationship if it is heading towards a horrible destination.

Relationship is like a two rails of railway track it both travels together and can reach to a happy ending. But in some case if any of the track gets hurt will definitely cause derailment that concludes relationship to a worst end, that the two of them could not have imagined.

So, time gap or a short break can definitely cure any damage or misunderstanding.

 

5. Silencereallyworks

 

Anger leads to unnecessary arguments and won’t bring any happiness. And at this moment it’s not necessary to put others down by dominating your own voice rather than being a silent creature and loosing that virtual cold war for the sake of relationship.

Don’t think that acting like this will supress your instinct and confidence but silence will provoke you and generate a feeling of understanding.

 

6. Respect the “right one”

 

Respect the one who really deserves that, means who really care, where you are?and what you are up to? Sometimes we are misled by the wrong people whom we admire and really seek for affections and considerations, but often in this meantime we forget the people who really bothers for us.

Whatever the conditions are there, whether  we are not interested in dealing with them, we should always associate them with us. Whatever they are, may not be a close friend, a mere acquaintance but always acknowledge their deeds, that favoured us. So, that they don’t look on us as a mean and selfish creature. And we will obviously realize their importance whenever we are ignored by the person we admire.

 

In case of relationship never leave your friend circle after attaching yourself to one person.

 

7. Trapped by words

We usually find it fascinating, whenever we deal with the person who talks smartly, giving you all attention, praises us. But, this is merely an attraction or an “infatuation”, which just develops as we spend more time with them.

 

During this immaturity stage of our life, we usually carried away by the words, which might send us to cloud nine at that point of time.But it would surely end up leaving bad memories

 

Don’t get attached to people so fast, because attachment would lead to expectation and expectation would lead to disappointments.